Did you ever wonder why we love? Why we seek love and welcome it into our lives? Why we are sometimes willing to go to extremes to persuade ourselves that we are in love or that we are loved by the object of our love?
My personal opinion is that it is food for the soul and that our eternal beings need it like our bodies need to nourish themselves. The energy brought to our beings by the fact of loving or being loved is phenomenal and compensates many an ailment. We therefore seek it because nobody can fast forever and however strong our will, at some point in our lives we will give in to it. It is a mere illusion to believe that we can live a loveless life or that we can spend our lives moving from one loose relationship to another without allowing our hearts and souls to attach themselves to the other’s. So many people who have lived such a life come to regret at some point in time not having taken the chance of a deeper relationship.
Does it mean that we should live a life of abstinence until we find true love?
I would say most certainly not. The body like the soul needs to be nourished and all human beings need the contact and proximity of a loved one. If not true love, the closest thing possible to it that allows us to feel that there is someone by our side for whom we care and who cares for us. Simple things like holding hands, talking, sharing meals, having joint activities or separate ones that are then discussed briefly are all important in keeping our souls alight with happiness and hope in a future where we will not have to carry any burden alone. For solitude, although necessary at times, weighs a lot even on the soul that enjoys freedom.
But does this mean that we have to jump headlong into the next available relationship if we have loved and lost our loved one?
From personal experience, I would say that it is a really bad idea to jump into a new relationship to forget a personal loss. It is always necessary to take a step back and analyse the reasons that made our relationship go awry. This would then allow us to correct our thought patterns that caused the breakup and have a better relationship once we are ready to move on.
Can we love on command and can we choose the object of our love?
We cannot force ourselves to love a person that we wish to have as a partner for it has to come from within. The only thing that can happen when we choose a partner in life is that we eventually come to care for him/her but that notion is only a pale shadow of true love. While being a necessary component of loving someone, caring does not transport the soul like true love does. Often people settle for caring rather than taking the risk of searching for a true love. It is easier to set some criteria that are socially acceptable and then go in quest of the person who fits most the description than to open one’s heart and let love in whatever the form it comes in. But a life lived in contentment can never compare with a life lived in absolute bliss.
What is true love? How do you find it?
I personally believe in reincarnation and am convinced that the concept of soul mates is not a possibility but an actual reality and that we can only experience true love with our soul mate who is destined to cross our path. All we need to do is to be receptive and look out for the symptoms, the complex pattern of coincidences that make our paths cross in such a way that it is then obvious that it was meant to be. I also believe that the soul does not necessarily reproduce itself whole in all the lives it goes through but may split once or more from the effect of severe trauma experienced in any of the lives. One might therefore have more than one soul mate in a lifetime although only one soul mate will bear the most kinship with our soul.
So if you want to find your true love, be on the lookout for the signs. They will always be there and you just need to be open-minded and patient enough to spot, understand and follow them as they build up. But most of foremost, never be hasty in your conclusions because it is important to make the right choice. Slowly and surely is probably the best way to approach your quest for love.
Above all keep in mind that you can live for love but should not die for it. So here’s to lots of love to those who chance upon this post while they are savouring it or waiting to do so. And remember, if you think you have not yet found love, not to indulge in too much monkey business.
